Discussions Time: "Helicopter Parents" Cause Depressive Kids

The below video displayed a discussion between the Lisa Ferguson and John Iadarola.

Their discussion topis was "Helicopter parents" cause Depressive Kids

This video was adapted from the website:  http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XdleGNJlJj4

Vicious Cycle Between Authoritarian Parenting and Children's Depression

This below flow chart  was a precisely illustration to depict how the authoritarian parenting would lead to children's poor mental health (Chan, 2013).

This photo was adapted from the website: http://helicopter-parents-and-anxiety.blogspot.hk/2012/12/parenting-and-anxiety.html

Beyond this vicious cycle, there was a key message that our kid's future depended partly on our parental style.


References:
Chan, O. (2013). What is parenting? Helicopter vs Monster. Retrieved 9 November, 2013 from Monster parents, helicopter parents & anxiety, Website: http://helicopter-parents-and-anxiety.blogspot.hk/2012/12/what-is-parenting-helicopter-vs-monster.html

Helicopter Parents vs Monster Parents

Sometimes, it was quite confusing to distinguish the difference between the "Monster Parents" and "Helicopter parents".

A) The First Intrinsically Difference Between the "Helicopter Parents" and "Monster Parents"

The term "Helicopter Parents" was used in western societies whereas the term "Monster Parents" was used in eastern societies.

The picture was adapted from the website: http://awkwardebutante.blogspot.hk/2010/05/helicopter-parents.html

Originated from the America, "Helicopter Parents" was primarily seen in the  book " Between Parents & Teenage" which was written by Dr Haim Ginott in 1969.

Later, written by Foster W Cline and Jim Fay in 2006, "Helicopter Parents" was then used in the book " Parenting with love and logic" (Cline, & Fay, 2006).

"Helicopter Parents" was  the description referred to parents who had the inclination to hover overhead of their children (Cline, & Fay, 2006).

This photo is adapted from the website: http://shooters.cocolog-nifty.com/feel_and_sense/2008/07/post_aa1a.html

On the contrary, originated from Japan, "Monster Parents" was phrase used firstly by  Onoda Masatoshi in late twenty centuries.

Monster Parents was specially referred to parents who always exerted pressure to the school teachers or principals by launching complaints to them for the sake of their children to maximize their benefits.

This photo was adapted from the website: http://news.asiaone.com/News/AsiaOne%2BNews/Asia/Story/A1Story20130425-418343.html

 

B) The Second Distinguishing Feature Between the "Helicopter Parents" and "Monster Parents"

 
First and foremost, children was the sufferers under "Helicopter Parents" whereas the victim of " Monster Parents" was the school teachers and principals (Chan, 2013).

On top of that, "Helicopter Parents" was an indigenous word emanated from western society whereas the phrase "Monster Parents" was exported to western society (Chan, 2013).

In the western content and context, "Monster Parents" referred to parents who controlled and protected excessively their fellow children.


References
Chan, O. (2013). What is parenting? Helicopter vs Monster. Retrieved 7 November, 2013 from Monster parents, helicopter parents & anxiety, Website: http://helicopter-parents-and-anxiety.blogspot.hk/2012/12/what-is-parenting-helicopter-vs-monster.html


Cline, F, & Fay, J. (2006). Parenting with love and logic: Teaching Children Responsibility (2nd Edition). Colorado: Navpress.

Helicopter Parenting Contributing to Child Depression

According to a study conducted by Schiffrin and his colleagues in 2013, it depicted that helicopter parents had a higher probability to nurture children with depressive symptoms as well as having low satisfaction towards their life (Schiffrin, Liss, Miles-McLean, Geary, Erchull, & Tashner, 2013).

This picture was adopted from the website: http://blessedexistence-blessed.blogspot.hk/2012/08/helicopter-parents-vice-of-over.html


Previous studies discovered that college students having helicopter parents had more prescription of anti-depressive medications when compared with those without helicopter parents (LeMoyne & Buchanan, 2011).

 This picture was adopted from the website: http://blessedexistence-blessed.blogspot.hk/2012/08/helicopter-parents-vice-of-over.html


However, the relationship between the helicopter parenting and increasing anxiety was not established (Schiffrin et al, 2013).


References

LeMoyne, T., & Buchanan, T. (2011). Does " hovering' matter? Helicopter parenting and its effect on well-being. Sociological Spectrum, 31, 399-418

Schiffrin, H. H., Liss, M., Miles-McLean, H., Geary, K. A., Erchull, M. J., & Tashner, T. Helping or Hovering? The effects of helicopter parenting on college students' well being. Journal of Child and Family Journal, 1-10.

The Monster Parents in the South Korea

A video, which was known as "High Expectations Asian Father's Video", was made by using the face image of Jeon Mu Song. He was a famous South Korea actor who acted as fathers in the TV series.

The main theme of the video was to show the strong determination of Asian parents to excel their children in the academic fields.

This video was adapted from the website: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Uxv7aw4iwY0


On top of that, there was another video showing the importance of the university entrance examination in South Korea. 

The video was adapted from the website:  http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3Lg9pT65h74

We could see from the video that  all the students had a high moral to prepare for their exam and their parents were exciting.

A Japanese TV Drama: Monster Parents

A Japanese TV drama "Monster Parents, which was broadcasted in 2008, was popular in Asia countries such as Japan, Korea, Hong Kong, Taiwan and even China.

The Theme Song of the Drama by Tokunaga Hideaki

This video was adapted from the website: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NRVXvTTaq24

Takamura Itsuki, who was the main character in the firm and was acted by Yonekura Ryoko ( 米倉涼子), was a very competent lawyer in a famous firm. She was so brilliant that she never lost a case in court until she accepted a favor from the Board of Education to solve a case between parent and teacher (Barlow, 2009).

This photo was adapted from the website:  http://kumojapandrama.blogspot.hk/2010/05/monster-parent-release-july-08.html



Before encountering the "Monster Parents", she was conceived that everything could be brought to the court for litigation. However, she encountered many challenges when dealing with the "Monster Parents" who were devoted to concern only the welfare of their own children (Barlow, 2009).

This photo was adapted from the website:  http://adramaotaku.com/japanese-drama/monster-parent-complete/


She experienced lost and frustration throughout the process, however, she still continue to face this challenge. Ultimately, she discovered the meaning of her life besides wealth, fame as well as success (Barlow, 2009).



References

Barlow, E. (2009). Monster Parents: Complete. Retrieved 26 October, 2013 from Asian Drama Otaku- Monster Parents, Website:  http://adramaotaku.com/japanese-drama/monster-parent-complete/

Monster Parents or Helicopter Parents in Japan and Korea

Monster Parents were not unique in Hong Kong.

Under the Lens of Japan: "monsutā pearento" 

In Japan, "monsutā pearento" were the parents of a closely monitored kid whose movements or behaviors were closely watched by theirs parents (Pulvers, 2012).

The picture above were adopted from the website: http://www.globaltimes.cn/opinion/foreign-view/2010-09/571421.html


"Monsutā pearento" phoned the teachers inappropriate time to exert pressure over the teaching staff and even their school principals to improve their unfair treatment over their child.

Even worse, they threaten their teaching staff for the reasons of giving their child  a unreasonably low grading in the examinations or for not giving their child a remarkable star in school performance (Pulvers, 2012).

Under the Lens of South Korea: Monster Parents

The parents of Korea were conceived to be forced to become monster parents because entering into the university was the only way for their child to enter the upper tier of the society (Chan, 2012).

This photos was adapted from the website: http://helicopter-parents-and-anxiety.blogspot.hk/


The South Korea Parents forced their child into "Hagwons" which were a private, profit making academic school which was popular in South Korea.  They designed the fully-utilized studying timetable for their kids and prepared high nutrient food for them (Chan, 2012).



References
Chan, O. (2012). Monster Parents: The South Korea Way. Retrieved 26 October, 2013 from Monster Parents, Helicopter Parents and Anxiety, Website: http://helicopter-parents-and-anxiety.blogspot.hk/2012/12/monster-parents-south-korean-way.html

Pulvers, R. (2012). Monster parents make matters worse for their children and teachers. Retrieved 26 October, 2013 from The Japan Times, Website: http://www.japantimes.co.jp/opinion/2012/08/19/commentary/monster-parents-make-matters-worse-for-their-children-and-teachers/#.Um1iCxBbAZ4